my death

a question was once askd. Does a rose by any other name smell as sweet..? So does music by any other instrument make you dance? Does a joke by any other person make me laugh? if so, does a death by any other bullet hurt more? then y is it that when we lose a loved one by the fornication of society, does it hurt less than when the life would be lost by the piercing of the flesh? isnt it the same life lost? isnt it the same grave that is filled? so you tel me, why the extra tissues? so the question can be askd again, How can I die, in order to cause less tears?